Behavior Strategy #2 — The Required Response

Behavior Strategy #2 — The Required Response

As a child, our youngest son had a terrible habit of repeatedly failing to do what he was asked. And his excuse was always the same… “But, I didn’t hear you,” or ” I forgot.” On some level, all parents deal with kids not doing what...
Behavior Strategy #1 – The Repeat Re-do

Behavior Strategy #1 – The Repeat Re-do

This month, I’ll be sharing multiple ways to quickly and effectively address common behavior issues with your kids through heart-based strategies that work. While my wife and I got plenty of things wrong when our kids were young, these were some of the things we got...
Transform Your Home With These Two Things

Transform Your Home With These Two Things

Want to transform your home? Here are two things every parent can get right this week. Is there anything in your home that you’d like to be different than it is? Any struggles you’re facing? Any challenges that seem insurmountable, whether relational, financial,...
How to Avoid Being the Adversary at Home

How to Avoid Being the Adversary at Home

One of the ongoing struggles for nearly every parent is striking the balance between being a friend, a parent, and even sometimes an adversary to their children. We all have the same desire for our kids to like us, yet we all sometimes find ourselves playing the part...
Embracing Your Messy Life

Embracing Your Messy Life

Life is messy and filled with mess-ups (just ask Notre Dame fans from this past weekend). At least mine is. I was sitting at the kitchen table this past week when I heard a loud pop sound. It didn’t sound quite right. Something bad had just happened.  My 14-year-old...
5 Things I’d Tell My Younger Self As a Parent

5 Things I’d Tell My Younger Self As a Parent

If you had a do-over in parenting, would you take it? Our oldest child is 22 and just got married. Our other children are now adults and teens. (We’ve also been blessed with an 11-month-old “bonus child” that brings so much joy to our lives.)  If I could go back and...
Your Kids Don’t Need Perfect

Your Kids Don’t Need Perfect

Your kids don’t need perfect.  Have you ever gotten frustrated with yourself as a parent because you fell short in some way? Maybe you lost your cool… again  Or your words didn’t match your actions Or, you just seem to be lacking in daily grace with your kids Let me...
3 Relationships That Can Make or Break You—#2: Time

3 Relationships That Can Make or Break You—#2: Time

Relationships are like riding a bike—you can’t ride a bike while staying still. In the same way, there’s no such thing as a neutral relationship. Your relationships are inevitably moving you in a direction either towards or away from your goals. This is also true with...
3 Relationships That Can Make or Break You—#1: Food

3 Relationships That Can Make or Break You—#1: Food

Relationships are the secret sauce to a successful life. In fact, studies show that people with healthy relationships naturally live longer, happier, and more productive lives. This should not come as a surprise. But this is huge to understand for family success. But…...
3 Things I Learned from Fishing with My Son

3 Things I Learned from Fishing with My Son

“Dad, wanna go fishing?” This was the question my 14-year-old son asked me last Saturday night at 7pm. A couple of things to note: #1 – I’d just spent all day preparing for VBS starting the next day. I was tired and ready to just relax at home before...
The Battle for the Heart Goes Through the Mind

The Battle for the Heart Goes Through the Mind

What is one of the primary goals of every Christian parent?… Reaching your child’s heart now so God can have your child’s heart forever. (Proverbs 22:6) Yet many parents often miss that the war for the heart is usually won or lost on the battlefield of the mind....
Dads, YOU MATTER!

Dads, YOU MATTER!

One of the shows I remember watching years ago was “Everybody Loves Raymond”.  It was fun, lighthearted, and usually had a decent point behind it.   However, one of the things that always bothered me was the fact the Raymond (the star of the show and father of the...